Sexuality Talk| From A Man's Perspective
Is it true that “sexual freedom for women threatens the foundations of civilization?” Why is it common to construct men as promiscuous by nature and label women as a prostitute when they do the same? Society understands when men engage in polygamy and extra-marital relationships as evident in sayings varume imbwa or amadoda izinja (‘men are dogs’) in Shona and Ndebele respectively. Women are expected to exercise sexual restraint or suppress their feelings yet they have desires that are, at times, uncontrollable too. Virtue and sexual honesty as exemplified in motherhood and wifehood are viewed as admirable feminine qualities (Spronk 2005) yet admirable husbands may have multiple wives or extramarital relations. Patriarchy is the malefactor perpetrating this set up as modus operandi. There is dire need to deconstruct patriarchal fallacies about sexuality in Zimbabwe and raise questions about the future. Should we continuously be defined and restricted...