IN HER THOUGHTS

We often make our life choices based on value, time/ impulsivity, and expectancy. Somehow if a plan doesn’t fall into the favorable categories, we tend to switch off the sense of emergency to complete the task. Have you ever noticed that there are certain tasks that you leave on your to-do list for a few hours – weeks or rather too long? Ever wondered what could be the reason?  Then, this week’s entry speaks to you. Take a deep breath, clear your mind and pay attention. In big capital letters, it is PROCRASTINATION.  In the words of David Ballard, head of the Psychological Associations Centre for Organisational Excellence, “Procrastination it is not just avoiding or delaying of a task. It also has to include an aspect that is counter-productive, irrational or unnecessary." The way I see it, there are two paths in any given scenario, that is taking on a task and endure pain at the moment or the other long difficult path of delaying or postponing swaying from the...

📷 Jonathan Daniels "You can get in life what you have courage to ask for " - Oprah Winfrey When it comes to life don’t be humble and meek, take on whatever life gives you. There is a better way to take on life, that is, to be specific about what you want. As our Shona idiom goes, “Mwana asinga cheme anofira mumbereko” which simply translates to, “You only get what you have the courage to ask for.” It is the only en route to success and getting what you want. It costs zero dollars to take charge of your life, be assertive – combine your confidence with control. Trust me it is like a magnet to get attention, a step forward to getting what you want. Growing up I was a reserved and quiet person. Never asked for anything or complained. It was rooted in me and my way of life. Up until I realized that if I don’t ask for much I won’t get much. Your soul and mind will give precisely what you unconsciously tell it, nothing more or nothing less. Being a considerate soun...

📷 Raw Pixel “I love you.” The magical three little words have a deeper meaning, and yet many people somehow fall short of expressing how they truly feel. Actions speak louder than words, and today, Valentine’s Day is really about saying “I love you” in more meaningful ways. Here are creative ways to express your love to your love bug... 1. Leave hide-and-seek love letters. Write little love notes to your mate and leave them in unexpected places where they will eventually be found, such as in a sock drawer, a packed lunch or even in the freezer. That way, they will regularly be surprised by your thoughtfulness. 2. Create an “I love you Because” booklet. How do I love you? Let me count the ways… If you can come up with at least a lot of deck standard-size cards of things you love about your partner. Just write and paste them in your booklet. It will serve as an ongoing reminder of the reasons you fell in love with your significant other. 3. A message in ...

📷 Prince Akachi Valentine’s Day is fast approaching. What ideas are you brewing? February the 14 th is the day to go beyond, surround yourself with all there is to love about romance. With what is going on, it makes it even more special if your significant other go out of their way to celebrate this love-filled holiday with you. If you and your personal person beat the odds and spend this day with as much romance as you can pack into a night. That’s is true love there! Some are already hiding behind the " we celebrate our love every day so why bother ." Well, not to burst your bubble but we all know that’s a bag of crap. This Valentine’s is going to be for hardcore romantics – the best lovebugs. I bet my money on it. If not, prepare for yourself for thread long excuses and worse off the legendary move " being ghosted" . So, what is Valentine Day all about? It is often chosen as the perfect day to express love and commitment. It is like rom-com,...

📷 Eye for Ebony We live in a world where people preach appreciate what you have gospel! Little attention is paid to whether it is really worth your while. Is it appreciating or its slowly becoming settling? Let's say you have your 8 to 5 job, every month end you have to nag your boss to pay your salary in full. In such a scenario is it wise to appreciate that at least you have a job? Many times you complain but do not do anything. Grumbling about injustice doesn't make things just and the ensuing hostility doesn't help us effectively address things that need fixing. In the words of Mary Engelbreit, " If you don't like something, change it. If you can change it, change the way you think about it." Staying your mind rooted in unfairness will not change it, rather it cripples your ability to explore your potential. Whether it is a job, relationship, business idea do not be idle. If is it not working for you, explore and seek better. The little things t...