Loyalty Is NOT A Rehabilitation Centre For Toxicity!

Loyalty Is NOT A Rehabilitation Centre For Toxicity!
Julian Myles

Loyalty is one of the characteristics that tops everyone's list for someone to have within a relationship. It is an act of freedom where you choose who and what to give your commitment, respect, and affection. Unfortunately, it has become increasingly harder to differentiate between being loyal and taking unlimited, unnecessary pain. 

Loyalty is a fascinating, profound concept that goes way beyond trust. But have you ever wondered, "Am I loyal to a fault in my relationships?" Before you can be firmly respectful towards others, you have to respect yourself. People believe that being loyal applies to other people or never being unfaithful to your partner. It means so much more than that - it means being true to yourself, a team player, being there in the best way you can and standing by your love. And never take advantage of the relationship. 

Read the last paragraph, never taking advantage of the relationship! It goes both ways in all relationships at work, friends, partners or family. Nowadays, employee loyalty can feel like a cruel joke. You can be incredibly loyal to your employer, even working nights and weekends for years, and still be tossed out the door the minute the wind changes and they don't need you anymore.

Society has normalized sticking in toxic situations and behaviour under the guise of loyalty. I find the misconceptions very dangerous. By the very nature of it, it has self-betrayal side effects. If you stand by someone or a job that compromise your values, that is straight up self-betrayal, not loyalty.  

My whole life, I have grappled with this. When someone intentionally disrespects you, hurt you and make you feel less of a person you are. Cut them off! Cutting people off is boundary setting, and setting boundaries is an act of self-love. Take care of your mental health!


P.S. Trust not that someone will never hurt you. But that you will be fine even if it happens. That way, you give yourself the room to walk away from situations that no longer serve you. 

Comments

  1. TakudzwanasheAugust 13, 2021 at 8:15 PM

    Toxic relationships will kill you slowly.Sometimes you just have to let go and set yourself free.

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    1. In Her ThoughtsAugust 13, 2021 at 8:35 PM

      Yes very true. Taking care of yourself and put your mental self first.

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