Dating Someone Who Knows Your Mental Health Is Everything Part 2

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It’s been a minute, last time we discussed about how it’s important to know where your partner stands in terms of them being aware of their mental stability. I reckon it’s a must, it saves a lot of surprises and frustrations because you know who you dealing with. If you haven’t read the article click here, so we are on the same page.

I have in a fair share of relationships and it has been a hard journey of knowing how to show up for my partner/friends/family in ways they need me to vs ways I’m comfortable with. It was so easy for me to commit to a routine that was came easy to me like responding fast or make them laugh but I realized sometimes a person just wants you to listen or give them full attention, to feel your presence with no distractions. Hence, this article, please show up for people in your life in ways they need.

So what am I saying? Let me explain. Just show up and pay attention to what your partner actually needs. Don’t assume, don’t generalize we are all unique beings. Just because it works worked with John doesn’t mean Peter will automatically work. For example, for me I like attention and a good listener and my sister for example wants engagement in a conversations. She is a talker and caregiver by nature but she loves it when someone else assumes that role.

When you’re aware of how and how your relationships are, you’re better able to take specific steps to ensure they stand tests of time and day to day challenges. So for my sister I sometimes assume the role of starting a conversations and lift her burdens in terms of responsibility so she has have a little bit of fun. Transferring this to romantic relationships you can never find the one, but you choose the one who better compliments you, you need and is willing to build together. High levels of mutual commitment lead to a better wellness outcomes.

All types of relationships pass through stages, at each stage we navigate our differences with opportunity to greater intimacy and growth. A successful one is distinct in terms support each other’s core needs and values. Be an active listener, there’s a difference between hearing vs listening. Don’t just perceive sound but consciously choose to listen and participate in a conversation. Ask how they’re doing, don’t assume “The today you are off or it’s one of those huh” are a turn off, make time (quality time) for them and be their loudest supporter. Be actively supportive of their aspirations and encourage them through words and actions.