IN HER THOUGHTS

Is it true that “sexual freedom for women threatens the foundations of civilization?” Why is it common to construct men as promiscuous by nature and label women as a prostitute when they do the same?  Society understands when men engage in polygamy and extra-marital relationships as evident in sayings varume imbwa or amadoda izinja (‘men are dogs’) in Shona and Ndebele respectively. Women are expected to exercise sexual restraint or suppress their feelings yet they have desires that are, at times, uncontrollable too.  Virtue and sexual honesty as exemplified in motherhood and wifehood are viewed as admirable feminine qualities (Spronk 2005) yet admirable husbands may have multiple wives or extramarital relations. Patriarchy is the malefactor perpetrating this set up as modus operandi.  There is dire need to deconstruct patriarchal fallacies about sexuality in Zimbabwe and raise questions about the future. Should we continuously be defined and restricted by its ordina

It’s going to sound funny but having a moment to sob around, lick your wounds and break down into ourselves is a privilege. A moment where everything just freezes, and the only motion is your emotions, feeling it through and taking a time to breathe. YES, they say “remember to take care of yourself, you can’t pour from an empty cup” but what if that moment of feeling your feelings is detrimental to your livelihood? What if taking a break isn’t a choice? Battles have to fight, and that moment of losing track can land your face on the ground when life knocks you out. I grew up and was born of a strong woman, never did I see her complain nor give up. Everyone has people you think they have all things worked out, but maybe just maybe they don’t have the privilege to crumble at the face of everything life throws at them. The one who is supposed to work hard, a generation in their fist. There’s no time to slow down or to perfectly put it there’s time to show tears or break down.

Time has passed swiftly as the wind on a stormy day. I used to count days, each day passing by meant one less day till all of this is all over. But 21 days passed, 14 more days were added and I slowly lost interest in the days left and transferred that energy into adapting to the new normal. I don’t remember the date nor the time but a friend's words changed my perspective “The days more or less, reality will remain the virus is here and life has to go on.” My reality is I’m working from home, I do a silent prayer every day of gratitude that I still have a job. I have to explicitly say this because today’s topic is tricky and my views might be easily misjudged. Working from home for many is the new normal. It has relished freedom and flexibility, a good improvised way to keep the ball rolling during this unprecedented quarantine. Like any other things like staying indoors and restricted movements, it takes time to get used to it. Having all aspects of life in one place, how

First things first, your favorite blog won the Best Creative Writing of 2020 in the Tribe of Influencers, Zimbabwean Blog Awards . A grateful heart goes out to the Home of Zimbabwe Digital Storytellers, Tribe of Influencers, and everyone who made it possible. Mama, I made it!! Okay, let’s get right into it. Whenever I draft story ideas, look for a topic of interest, and write I always ask myself Why I Write . In my head, I always back it up with a clear vision and goals. Which is a good thing right? Blog goals help when I'm creating content so that my blog isn’t just a bunch of rudderless articles in a sea of content. But then I asked myself do my readers know? I never really gave a clear picture of what I have in my head to clearly sync with you. My apologies! Happy New month and let’s get to know what's In Her Thoughts. In Her Thoughts blog is a fruit of passion rather than a mere hobby. It is a platform that writes Anything About Everything to motivate,

It’s been hard quarantining but one or two podcasts a day keeps the ball rolling! It’s true what you spend more time with shapes you. Exhibit one, this article. Hang around a little bit more and you will agree or not but it has to be said either way. Have you ever been so comfortable in a situation, workplace, relationship, or in life generally, that it quickly turns from honoring that blessing to full blown entitlement? Yes! Today I’m coming to your house. Somehow, we lose the spirit we had at the beginning, where we felt grateful for the job, honored to have friends who listen, or when you found love. And we end up having an insatiable hunger, an ‘I should have’ mentality which is often linked with little to no commitment at all. Why do I say so? Commitment shows in what you do (your actions). For instance, when the #Lockdown started I would wake up early, get my chores down, exercise, bath, and get on with work in time. But two weeks in, it went from waking up early to I wi

I'm worth more than your words Intelligence and purpose ooze from my bosom.  I form and carry minds, the future is tattooed on stretch marks painted on my body Nations rise when my water breaks a flow, knowledge sucked from my breasts. You are what you are because a strong woman nurtured you. So next time, think twice, don't psst me. I'm born with heart, nurtured with passion, open and fearless. Chamber of birth, a ray of sunshine, every ray brings life and purpose. A book was written, of resilience, mystery and immeasurable soul. Written in code and dialect only those who know her worth can read. Guarded like all things royal are. She guards its content (a jewel) Just think of that the next time you hiss at a woman. Use your words and treat her humanly, she is no animal. Know her worth!  

A place we call home, a place one misses and appreciates. At times a place that can kill a dream and hope. This is a place where it all happens, young adults breed in their comfort zones and live on “existing to survive” mantra.  The young and the restless calls it G hetto and it's one of the places where all levels of confidence reside because everyone claims to be a Wise . The general belief is people from the streets live on an everyday reality  'to see things getting worse for many and better for a few. ' Choices and the company you keep determine your tomorrow and many always tell a tale of regret wishing if they could have done things differently. The spirit of stagnation seeps through the dusty streets. A kid with a dream today but life hardships and responsibilities can easily knock his off course. For those who blame life for being unfair, terrorize the drains and get high on alcohol and drugs to drown their sorrows away. Standard color for lads’ lips is b