December Hocus-Pocus: Is It real or Not?

Love! Let’s talk about L.O.V.E. The most satisfying feeling when intentions are in sync and if, you play your cards right. One complex topic, that doesn’t have a one-fits-all formula but yet the red flags somehow match. I remember at the genesis of this month, word on the streets was if your relationships survive December then it’s real. It made me wonder what it is about December that rocks the boat. What about those that start dating in December? Is it real or just relationships of convenience?

Some people feel the need to be single this time of year – the season brings party frenzy and a time to be jovial. Dealing with the ‘where are you’ and ‘who are you with’ can be a problem. It can be a cue for simmering relationship problems to boil over, which can be crunch time for many couples. This is a common December song to which anyone can now sing along. What about those that find ‘love’ in this hectic month? Is it real or fake?

Being in a relationship with someone you love vis-a-vis a relationship of convenience is different. The actions speak louder hence know what you are in for. Here are some pointers, if they do it differently for you just KEDEZEMBER Fling

Paying attention: Couples that a really in love pay attention and make sure they are present when they are together. Hear me carefully here, it is not just about physical presence but acknowledging your partner whenever possible. Real means doing everything in your power to be in the moment and making sure your partner is too.

Keeping your word: It is one important thing couples in love stick to and it becomes more of a priority than convenience. If he or she forgets your date plans for the festive celebrations, you have landed yourself a relationship of convenience. When you are in love and want to be with someone, you make time no matter how hectic your schedule is. If you are living parallel lives where everyone does what suits them. News flash it is not independence but a red flag.

Meaning connections: Have you ever felt used or unappreciated? Wondered why the conversations are monotonous? It is the WYD and what’s up for the night, once you answer those the conversation dies out. A conversation should be more than just that.

POE: Hi, wyd?

LOE: Hey, I’m chilling?

POE: Hitting the club, interested?

LOE: Yeah

Couples find ways to stay connected and further cement their bond. Seek for a deep, rich, authentic, stimulating, intellectual and spiritual conversations. There is nothing exotic than a good conversation, it speaks volumes. If you are in a relationship and these are absent, it is highly likely you, your partner or both of you are in it for the wrong reasons.

Truth be told we are living in a universe where we tell ourselves the little we get is better than nothing. We build a wall to shield ourselves and turn the envelope of safety to be on our side. Therefore, we shy away from falling in too deep to avoid hurt and we put blame on love for our lack of it. We settle for relationships based on comfort zones, fun advantages and safety. It is okay if that is what you is signed up for. At the end of day your happiness is your biggest priority. This festive season some will resort to one night stands, no-strings attached and friends with benefits. It is all up to you to you choose advantage and convenience over love.

Stay woke!  Compliments of the season and wishes for Happy Holidays.