IN HER THOUGHTS

“If you are emotionally attached to your tribe, religion or political leaning to the point that truth and justice become secondary considerations, your education is useless. Your exposure is useless. If you cannot reason beyond petty sentiments, you are a liability to mankind.” Dr. Chuba  Okadigbo Emotions versus reason – it is one of the oldest and most epic standoffs we know. A common puzzle to most people. Up to this day, people don’t know where to draw the line – making emotional or logical decisions. Take yourself back to those dreadful resolves you have made and pondered what was I thinking? Well, there is a high possibility you were not thinking and you merely acting on emotions, not logic. A social science researcher Brenel’ Brown says, “Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us.” My sixth sense tells me you must be wondering what sense of belonging has anything to do with emotion versus logic. Let me explain! Without carefully guidi

Sifting through the thousand words, known and unknown Falling deep, drawn in – seduced by the beauty of life A prolonged and repeated reality, product of what you create Nurture good thoughts to awaken greatness from within Conform not to standards, set your own… Live beyond the limitations – remain trusting even the unseen Appreciate the man in the mirror and be thankful Believe in yourself, if you win in your mind  You can conquer everything. It is your greatest weapon Keep a winner’s attitude in your mind, through it  And your attitude you will rise and access doors beyond Pay attention to what gets you to your destination Walk in wisdom, think and make calculated moves Prepare for what you dream of, mimic what you want to be While you learn, assume the role like it’s already yours You are extraordinary in your ordinary Push yourself and you will be unconquerable When you fall in the face of failure and rejection Amid the crisis of yo

Why are human assets not mentioned in the balance sheet? In financial terms employees are seen as an expense but many studies define happy engaged employees as the most valuable assets. Every business needs motivated employees for it to progress. Only if business owners knew the importance of keeping their workers motivated and treating them with respect. As human beings we thrive on acknowledgement, respect and motivation. It feeds our soul and the end product is what makes most companies successful. Have you ever wondered why you are so disconnected at work? The only thing that you look up to is your pay day. This is not how it is supposed to be, only if employers valued their workers as much as they value their investment. What they miss is that it is them that guarantee return on investment. If as an employer you find yourself losing employees and have no familiar face from when you opened business there is need to reevaluate your business and personal ethics. Do you rem

In the pale beyond the moon, falling at the predator’s bay.  Broken, Bruised and Buried Corpses pile up in soaring violence.  Overturned are the struggles to find peace basking in the sun Your eyes filled with terror and pain-laden tears It rains down unleashing its fury, a downpour Of wrath leaving one with a shattered soul Amidst the terrifying news, that oozes out daily on our television I wonder if our world will ever be safe again Demons play ‘Armored Knights’, fists of thunder makes not the man We are living in the days were wrong is slowly becoming right Ignorance is bliss, refuse to settle for pain And let such men hearken not your voice Render not your power, hold dear your sanity Unmarred by GBV press freely up the road of truth Don’t be ashamed, refuse them the will power To make you defenseless and useless SPEAK out - take at a choice, you have a voice A journey of a thousand miles starts with one step We have to come toge

When people show you who they believe them the first time. The signs are always there and we may be oblivious to see them. In life, the little things people do show more than the surface and we tend to overlook them. It is those little things that make a person. So if a person treats you some kind of way or says something that makes you question their intentions believe it the first time. Do not wait for the second, third or fourth time to make it sink in. Don’t let yourself believe it is the slip of the tongue or they said it due to pressure. The behavior that they show you, it is who they are. In most cases where we let the little things pass, they are the same things that will be problematic in the future in our relationships.   Before you act or speak make it a priority to put yourself in their shoes. There is always a nicer way to voice out your opinions without hurting people’s feelings or make them feel some time of way. In the words of Rabison Shumba, “Be watchful of w

Late in the summer of 1980, at around eight o’clock she received tragic news.  She trudged down the bleak white corridor which was slowly fading to a cream like color. Her mind was filled with images of her Robert. Her husband - her soul mate had passed on and left their two younglings in her care. A young and quite reserved lady sobbed in her grief. “How had this happened to me?” She asked herself. After only three years of marriage, she felt robbed. “Lord why have you forsaken me, why did you have to take him away from me.” Like a lonely star she simmered away in the depths of the universe, the voices of people around slowly faded away as she was in deep thoughts. The sounds made by mourners became a somber melody to her loss. To lose a husband, a father of her two beautiful angels was utterly devastating. In her mind, the people around could not possibly understand the depths she felt. “Be strong,” they said, and extended their condolences. No one had prepared her for this, sh

Communication is an important element in any kind of relationship. Most people misunderstand the difference between talking and communicating. One of the most irritating behaviors millenniums have is being poor listeners. Why are they not listening? Is it because the advice is poor, they don’t regard what you are saying or they really want their opinion to be validated? If I’m, to be honest, we listen to respond, defend or blame rather than understand.  In the words of Stephen Covey, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply" As humans, we are emotional beings and it is those emotions that affect the way we communicate which leave things unsaid and unsolved. Nobody is perfect, and this extends to our communication skills. Sometimes you will think you are a good communicator without knowing you have defensive listening skills. Take yourself back to that conversation that you had with your sibling, lover or colleague