Paint Your Own Reality!

In Her Thoughts: Paint Your Own Reality!

I like you enough as a friend but not enough to commit;
My words are enough, my actions are skewed;
Only if I get you to stay here, I can feed you with words enough to make you stay;
Consistency doesn't mean I have to be there for you but I drop by enough to keep you hooked;
Ask me any questions but don't question my commitment;
What matters is I'm here right. I give you the power to create so I don't have to explain myself if I can't stay;
Assumptions clear than words uttered;
'You know I like you' and 'I like you' remain blurred;
Paint your own reality.

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  1. ShingyMay 14, 2020 at 5:49 PM

    The worst kind of relationship sometimes inescapable

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    1. Munashe ChakaondaMay 14, 2020 at 9:50 PM

      Funny thing is we are their intentions but we remain in the situation regardless. Why?

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  2. SpokenbyherMay 14, 2020 at 7:08 PM

    This was nicely written. I am kinda in that complicated reality at the moment unfortunately.. That line where you said " You know I like you" & "I like you" remain blurred" is so true.
    You are so good with words.

    Nikki O.

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    1. Munashe ChakaondaMay 14, 2020 at 9:49 PM

      Thank you Nikki 🌻 how are you handling it? I have been in that situation before it was not a good experience for me.

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  3. Palm Trees and LoyaltiesMay 15, 2020 at 3:29 AM

    This is wonderfully put. It’s so easy to hear only what we want to hear. Watching people’s actions tells so much more than listening to their words.

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