Dating Someone Who Knows Your Mental Health Is Everything Part 3

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I could say getting in a relationship is easy and staying in one requires attention and effort. But we know how it is now if you’re really looking to date, like date date, not just for fun it is as hard as it is to keep one. We talked about educating yourself about your partner’s mental health, being there for your partner in the way they need and lastly we're talking about how to be intentional in your relationship with yourself and the people around you? I saved it for the last and in a minute you’ll know why.

'Intentionality means paying attention: it means doing things on purpose – not passively, not reflexively, not because we have to. Doing something to get as much out of it as possible, whatever that happens to mean in context.' With self, it means ensuring you’re taking care of both your mental and physical health in the sense that you’re in-taking what your body, mind and soul needs, you’re enjoying your company and you're self-aware. Notice the sensations in your body and the thoughts in your mind.

If you can put work in yourself, the intentional relationships with people around you will feel less work. There’s no formula to relationships but being active and making things happen is important. It doesn’t guarantee it will work out or be a smooth ride but all you can do is give it all. If it doesn’t work you move on knowing you did all you could and it’s not your fault. So slow down. Talk slower. Walk slower. Stop putting conditions to your happiness. Give your best all the time. Do it with intention. And be more present.

In relationships being intentional means you’ve to do more than just show up occasionally! I saw this tweet, my bad I forgot to screenshot but imma paraphrase it for you and add my own juice; You know you’re ready for a relationship when it’s about what you can offer/give than what you hope to get out of it. Besides the money, looks and bomb sex, what value are you bringing on the table. If you want to be intentional you need to get clear upfront about what you want to achieve and then take action to achieve things that are important to you. Mind you we're different so don't judge.

How You Can Be Intentional With Your Relationships.

Know yourself: Always ask what is important to you. Which people are adding value to you and push you to do more? What motivates you? What makes you smile? What can you do voluntarily? Do more of that and associate with such people as much as you can. Be you, bring your best self.

Embrace being perfectly imperfect: Be curious and not judgement, no one is perfect we’re all becoming and growing. Hear purity of the words and see true actions. Effort is the key word.

Declutter your life: Get rid of old habits,  toxic attitudes and learn to forgive. Let things go. If it’s not adding value, let that shit go. Holding onto resentments doesn’t only hold you back but also affect your energy in your interactions.

Live in the moment: Enjoy what you have. Make as much time with each other. Life can be busy but create rituals as a couple and dates that no matter what both of you can’t cancel. Spending quality time is my love language so I definitely recommend. Hint hint. They differ from one person to the other. Spend time and get to your partner's.

Keep growing. Keep exploring. Keep choosing. Keep living. Be intentional in all you do.