Be Straight Up With Me Or Walk!

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Have you ever met people who are just not truthful? From the smallest things, like what’s your plan really? Even the simplest question like, what do you do for fun? I don’t know whether it’s the need to impress or insecurity that my answer won’t measure up to the next person’s expectations? At first, it gave me chills, not the warm fuzzy goosebumps but the cringe that literally gives one an upset stomach. I was filled with so many questions, still is, and the reason why I’m writing about it. My mind screams, my face frowns and my whole being escapes me, I can’t handle hearing people deprive themselves of their true self. What for? Is it really worth it?

Many things are avoidable. Literally everything, everyone has a privilege of choice. This is what it’s like every time everyone chose to lie and not be straight up. This is what it’s like living with lies on your tongue, it’s a choice. It all comes down to choice or it's the demons one is battling with inside but they win every time. I somehow understand them, hear me right I’m not saying they are justified but I understand. Social media, yes I said it. Social media has given me a front-row the seat of people who pretend to be what they are not. Okay, let’s say it's peer pressure but what about those small miscellaneous lies?

Have you ever been in a conversation and you throw in a lie or don’t answer truthfully for no reason. In many circumstances, it’s not even necessary. Why do we do that? Why can’t we just be straight up? In personal interactions, relationships or the way we lead in life. We lie with ease, in ways big and small, to strangers, co-workers, and friends and loved ones.

“Honesty may be the best policy, but scheming and dishonesty are part of what makes us human.”

Not my words. People lie possibly to inflate their image or cover up bad behaviour. Once you start lying there’s no going back. You will constantly be covering up for one lie, one after the other. It must be exhausting, no wonder people who lie always look tired, it's a lot keeping up with a lie.

We all lie, but not all lies are the same. People lie and tell the truth to achieve a goal: “We lie if honesty won’t work,” says researcher Tim Levine.

It's true in its own way but the effort to be straight forward make life and interactions a whole lot easier. Let’s normalize being straight up with ourselves and people around us. I mean, it starts with refraining from using shorthand, riddles and taking the high road to get to the point. Hahaha yeah, I hate those with a passion. Just go straight to the point, good communication is very important.

Start disrupting unhealthy patterns from the smallest ones, it's good self-care and self-awareness. You can never stop learning— be careful of what you’re learning, it’s difficult unlearning things. Just do things with integrity, and most importantly be true to self.